We all like to think we’re pretty savvy when it comes to our social conduct. But, even the most socially adept among us can unknowingly commit faux pas that others secretly judge.
The thing is, we live in a world where people judge – consciously or unconsciously – based on our actions. And the tricky part? Some of these actions, you may not even be aware you’re doing.
In this article, we’ll shine some light on these social missteps.
So buckle up and prepare for some enlightening (and potentially cringe-worthy) revelations.
1) Loud phone conversations
We’ve all been there. You’re out in public, maybe in a library or a coffee shop, and suddenly you’re unwillingly pulled into the drama of a stranger’s personal life.
The culprit?
A person having a loud phone conversation, seemingly oblivious to the fact that they’re in a public space.
While you may think your phone call is private, if you’re speaking loud enough for others to hear, it becomes public domain. And trust me, people judge.
It’s not just about the disturbance; it’s also about the lack of respect for shared spaces and consideration for others.
Next time you need to make a call, remember: volume control is key. Keep it low, keep it private. Your fellow public-goers will thank you.
2) Not saying ‘thank you’
Confession time: I take manners very seriously. Maybe it’s because I was raised in a household where “please” and “thank you” were as necessary as breathing, but I’ve noticed that not everyone shares this sentiment.
I remember a time when I held the door open for a person behind me at a local cafe. They breezed past without so much as a nod. It stung, to be honest.
While it may seem like a small thing, these tiny courtesies can actually make a huge difference in how others perceive us. Saying “thank you” or expressing gratitude for someone’s kindness or help is not only polite, it’s also an acknowledgment of their effort.
If you’re missing out on these simple words, people might secretly judge you for being rude or ungrateful. So make sure to mind your manners – they matter more than you think.
3) Poor table manners
Dining out is more than just a meal; it’s a social event. And like all social events, there are certain unwritten rules that we’re expected to follow.
One of those is table manners. Sure, etiquette might vary from culture to culture, but some things are universally agreed upon. Chewing with your mouth open, speaking with a mouthful of food, or using your phone at the table are all considered bad form.
Now, you might think that as long as you’re enjoying your meal, it doesn’t matter. But here’s the thing – people notice. And they judge.
Whether you’re at a fine dining restaurant or a grab-and-go joint, remember to mind your manners. After all, good table etiquette never goes out of style.
4) Phubbing
Ever been out with friends, only to realize that everyone at the table is more interested in their phones than the conversation?
This phenomenon, known as “phubbing” (phone snubbing), is more common than you’d think, and it’s a major social faux pas.
Phubbing is the act of ignoring someone in favor of your smartphone. It can happen anywhere – during a meal, a meeting, or even a casual hangout. While you might not intend to be rude, the message it sends is clear: your phone is more important than the person in front of you.
This behavior can leave others feeling unappreciated and disrespected. It’s a silent but powerful statement that whatever is happening on your screen is more interesting than the real-life interaction taking place.
5) Not dressing for the occasion
We’ve all been to a formal event only to notice someone dressed in jeans and a t-shirt. It’s awkward, isn’t it?
Not dressing appropriately for the occasion is a common social misstep that people notice—and judge.
Take weddings, for example. A wedding is a special event, often with a specific dress code, whether it’s black-tie, semi-formal, or beach casual. Showing up in attire that doesn’t fit the occasion not only stands out, but it can also come across as disrespectful to the hosts who have put significant effort into planning the event.
The same goes for other formal gatherings like business meetings, funerals, or upscale dinners. Wearing the right attire shows that you understand and respect the norms of the setting. It’s not about adhering to arbitrary rules; it’s about showing consideration for the expectations and efforts of others.
When in doubt, it’s better to err on the side of overdressing rather than underdressing. If you’re unsure about what to wear, don’t hesitate to ask the host or check the invitation for dress code details. Dressing appropriately is a simple yet powerful way to convey respect and social awareness.
Final thoughts: It’s about respect
At the heart of these judgments lies a simple, universal truth – respect. How we treat others, how we behave in shared spaces, and how we conduct ourselves in public are all reflections of our respect for others.
Remember, our actions in public are like a mirror reflecting our values and character. And people do notice. They judge.
So next time you’re out in public, take a moment to reflect on your actions. Are they reflecting the kind of person you aspire to be?
In the end, it’s not just about avoiding judgment. It’s about cultivating respect – for ourselves, for others, and for the spaces we share.
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