You know that feeling when life seems like a never-ending uphill battle? Where every step forward feels like you’re sinking deeper into the mud?
Yeah, we’ve all been there.
Success doesn’t always look or feel the way we imagined it would. We tend to associate it with grand achievements, recognition, or that elusive “big break.”
But the truth is, real success often lurks in the shadows of the grind, hiding in plain sight while you’re too busy questioning yourself.
The reality is, you might be on the path to something extraordinary—even if it feels like you’re stuck in a rut. Sometimes, success is less about the milestones you hit and more about the quiet, often overlooked signs that you’re moving in the right direction.
So, before you write yourself off or get lost in the noise of what success “should” look like, let’s take a moment to explore some of these hidden indicators that you’re closer to real success than you think.
01 You’re prioritizing what truly matters
Have you started to notice that the things you once obsessed over don’t seem as important anymore?
Maybe you’ve begun to value your time more, choosing to spend it with loved ones, or focusing on activities that bring you genuine joy rather than just ticking off boxes on someone else’s checklist.
This shift in priorities is a strong sign that you’re aligning your life with what truly matters.
Success isn’t about how much you accumulate or how busy you can make yourself. It’s about living a life that is in harmony with your values and purpose. When you start letting go of superficial goals and instead direct your energy toward meaningful pursuits, you’re on a path that leads to a deeper, more authentic form of success.
02 You’re comfortable saying “No”
“Remember that if you don’t prioritize your life someone else will.”
― Greg Mckeown, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less
So, let’s say someone asks you to take on another project, join another committee, or help out with something that doesn’t align with your goals. In the past, you might have felt compelled to say “yes” out of a sense of obligation, fear of missing out, or the desire to please others. But now, you find yourself more comfortable with the word “no,” not out of selfishness, but because you understand the value of your time and energy.
Sound familiar?
This ability to set boundaries is a critical sign of real success. It shows that you’re no longer driven by the need for external validation but are instead guided by your own priorities and well-being. You recognize that every “yes” to something unimportant is a “no” to something that truly matters.
By saying “no” when necessary, you’re reclaiming your power and focusing on what’s truly important to you. This is what success really looks like—living life on your own terms.
03 You are becoming more resilient in the face of adversity
When life throws a curveball, do you crumble under the pressure, or do you stand your ground, ready to adapt and move forward? If you’re noticing that challenges no longer derail you like they used to, this is a clear sign of true success.
Resilience isn’t about never failing—it’s about how quickly you can recover and learn from those failures. It’s about maintaining your composure, keeping your focus, and pushing through the tough times with a steady resolve. This kind of strength doesn’t come from external achievements but from an inner shift, a deep understanding that you are in control of your responses, even when you’re not in control of the situation.
As Marcus Aurelius puts it, “Be like the headland on which the waves continually break, but it stands firm and about it the boiling water sinks to sleep.” (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944).
When you cultivate resilience, you become that unshakable headland.
The storms will come, but you’ll remain standing, stronger and wiser each time. This quiet fortitude is a powerful indicator that you’re on the path to lasting success, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
04 You’re focused on progress rather than perfection
In a world that glorifies perfection, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that success means flawless execution. But here’s the thing: perfection is an illusion, a moving target you’ll never hit. What truly matters is progress—those small, incremental steps forward that often go unnoticed.
Maybe you’ve stopped beating yourself up over minor mistakes, or you’ve started to see setbacks as learning opportunities rather than failures.
This shift in mindset is a powerful sign that you’re on the right path.
You’re no longer paralyzed by the fear of not getting everything right on the first try. Instead, you’re embracing the process, knowing that real growth happens in the trenches of trial and error.
Each step, no matter how small, is a victory worth celebrating.
05 You’ve learned to let go of what you can’t control
A few years ago, I found myself stuck in traffic, fuming as I watched the minutes tick by, knowing I was going to be late for an important meeting. My frustration grew with every inch we crawled forward.
But then, something clicked.
I realized that no amount of anger or stress was going to clear the road or get me to my destination any faster. So, I took a deep breath, turned up the radio, and let it go.
That moment was a turning point for me. It wasn’t just about the traffic—it was about how I approached life’s uncontrollable situations. By letting go of what I couldn’t control, I freed up my energy to focus on what I could. This shift in mindset is a powerful indicator of success.
As Epictetus said, “Of all existing things, some are in our power and others are not in our power.”(The Discourses of Epictetus , 1916)
By learning to differentiate between the two, you save yourself from unnecessary stress and anxiety. You stop wasting time on things beyond your influence and instead, channel your efforts into what truly matters.
This ability to let go doesn’t mean you’re giving up—it means you’re wise enough to know where your energy is best spent. It’s a sign of maturity and self-awareness, both crucial elements of real success.
06 You’re comfortable with uncertainty
This is a big one.
One of the most challenging aspects of life is dealing with uncertainty. Whether it’s in your career, relationships, or personal goals, the unknown can be a source of anxiety and stress.
However, if you’ve started to become more comfortable with uncertainty—if you can face the unknown without feeling paralyzed by fear—it’s a sign that you’re on the path to true success.
This comfort with uncertainty doesn’t mean you have all the answers; it means you’ve developed the resilience and adaptability to handle whatever comes your way. You’ve learned to trust yourself and your ability to navigate through life’s twists and turns, even when the path ahead isn’t clear.
As Epictetus reminds us, “Ask not that events should happen as you will, but let your will be that events should happen as they do and you shall have peace.” (The Discourses of Epictetus , 1916)
This mindset allows you to move forward with confidence, even in the face of ambiguity. By embracing the unknown, you’re not just surviving—you’re thriving in a world where change is the only constant. This adaptability is a key component of real success, showing that you’re equipped to handle life’s inevitable uncertainties with grace and composure.
07 You’re content with and focused on your own journey
“How great a rest from labour he gains who does not look to what his neighbour says or does or thinks but only what himeslf is doing” Marcus Aurelius (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)
Last but not least, in a world obsessed with comparison, finding contentment in your own journey is no small feat.
That is, if you’ve reached a point where you’re no longer swayed by what others are doing or achieving and instead focus on your own path, this is a powerful sign of real success.
The ability to resist the pull of envy and stay focused on your own progress reflects a deep understanding of what truly matters to you. It shows that you’ve defined success on your own terms, rather than adopting someone else’s version of it. You’ve realized that your journey is unique, and that comparing yourself to others only distracts you from the progress you’re making.
The bottom line
Success isn’t always about flashy achievements or overnight wins—it’s about the small, steady signs that show you’re growing, adapting, and moving forward, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
Keep an eye out for these indicators, and you’ll realize you’re much closer to your goals than you think.
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