Have you ever met someone who seems to have an uncanny ability to read people? That’s often a Stoic in action, using their keen sense of observation to gauge authenticity, emotional control, and more.
In this article, we’ll explore seven things that those who follow the Stoic path almost always notice about others.
Whether you’re a practicing Stoic or just someone curious about understanding human nature better, this one is for you.
1) Authenticity
Have you ever met someone and instantly felt that they were not being genuine?
That’s because, often, people wear a social mask to fit in or to impress others.
Stoics, with their keen observational skills, can quickly spot the incongruity between a person’s words and their actions. They have a radar for detecting whether someone is being authentic or just putting on a show.
You see, Stoics value authenticity over pretense. They appreciate people who embrace their true selves, with all their flaws and strengths. And they are good at spotting those who do.
2) Reactions to adversity
So let’s say you just got passed over for a promotion at work, or maybe your car broke down on the way to an important meeting.
How do you react? Do you throw a fit, blaming your boss or the universe for your bad luck? Or do you take a deep breath, accept the situation, and start figuring out your next move?
Stoics are big believers in seeing adversity as an opportunity for growth. They understand that while we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can certainly control how we respond to it.
When they see someone handling a tough situation gracefully, they take note. Because that’s not just resilience – it’s wisdom in action.
3) How a person’s words and actions align
As the famous Stoic philosopher, Epictetus, once said, “Don’t explain your philosophy. Embody it.”
Stoics live by this principle, and they notice when others do too.
They understand that actions speak louder than words and that it’s easy to talk a good game. But what truly matters is whether or not you follow through on your promises.
Say, for example, a friend keeps promising to quit smoking but never actually makes an effort to stop. Or a colleague constantly talks about being environmentally conscious, yet you notice they are wasting paper and using plastic cutlery every day.
These discrepancies don’t go unnoticed by a Stoic. They value integrity and consistency in one’s actions and words.
4) Gratitude
According to experts, expressing gratitude can lead to a whole list of good things, like better sleep, less stress, and even a lower risk of depression.
Stoics were onto this long before modern studies. They valued the practice of gratitude and contentment, recognizing it as a key to achieving a peaceful state of mind.
And when observing others, Stoics are quick to notice those who appreciate what they have, rather than constantly longing for more. They respect people who can find joy in simple things and express gratitude for their blessings, however small they may be.
5) Respect for others
I recall a time when I was at a social gathering, and I watched a man navigate the room. He had conversations with everyone, from the event’s hosts to the waitstaff. He listened attentively, offered sincere compliments, and thanked each person for their efforts that evening. It was clear that he valued everyone’s contribution, regardless of their role.
Stoics deeply respect this quality. They believe in treating all individuals with dignity and respect, regardless of their social status or background. They notice when others do the same.
You see, a Stoic understands that every person has their own story, their own struggles, and their own strengths. To judge or belittle someone without fully understanding them is not only unfair but unwise.
6) Self-improvement and learning
Stoics are lifelong learners. They understand that personal growth is a never-ending journey, and they are always on the lookout for opportunities to learn and improve. They follow what Seneca once wrote, “As long as you live, keep learning how to live.”
They notice this when observing others as well.
Stoics admire those who are open to learning and growth. They appreciate individuals who embrace their flaws, yet continuously strive to be better. As Seneca, another renowned Stoic philosopher, once wrote, “As long as you live, keep learning how to live.”
7) Kindness and compassion
Last but not least, Stoics place great importance on kindness and compassion. They understand that these virtues are fundamental to our shared humanity. They recognize that everyone is fighting their own battles, and a little kindness can go a long way.
When observing others, Stoics notice acts of kindness, both large and small.
They admire individuals who show genuine compassion towards others. They believe that kindness isn’t just about grand gestures; it’s about everyday actions that make the world a little bit better.
As Marcus Aurelius, one of the most famous Stoic philosophers, wrote, “What is not good for the hive is no good for the bee.” With this in mind, we’re reminded that our collective well-being depends on our individual acts of kindness.
The bottom line
Stoics observe the world through a lens of rationality, and their insights can serve as powerful tools for anyone looking to understand human behavior more deeply.
Incorporating these observations into your own life can offer a new perspective on your interactions and relationships. Recognizing and valuing authenticity, resilience, integrity, gratitude, respect, self-improvement, and kindness not only makes you more aware of others but can also help you cultivate these qualities within yourself.
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Until next time, keep observing, keep learning, and keep growing.
What would Marcus Aurelius say?
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