Being a good person isn’t about grand gestures or heroic acts. It’s about the small things you do every day without even realizing it.
As a relationship expert, I’ve noticed that these tiny behaviors are often the most telling indicators of a person’s character.
In this article, we’ll explore eight subtle behaviors that reveal your goodness, even if you’re not aware of it.
You might be surprised to find out how much these little things say about you.
1) Small acts of kindness
Kindness is one of the most telling traits of a good person. And it’s not about grand gestures or sacrificial acts.
Often, it’s the little things that say the most about us. Things like holding the door open for someone, offering your seat on a crowded bus, or helping an elderly neighbor with their groceries.
These tiny acts of kindness may seem insignificant to you, but they can mean the world to someone else. They show that you care about others and are willing to go out of your way to make their day a little better.
And the best part? Most of us do these things without even realizing it. It’s just who we are.
So if you find yourself regularly engaging in small acts of kindness, it’s a pretty good indicator that you’re a good person. Even if you don’t realize it.
2) Listening without judgment
Listening – truly listening – is one of the most powerful ways to show someone that you respect them and value their thoughts and feelings.
As a relationship expert, I’ve seen how crucial this seemingly tiny behavior is in building strong, healthy relationships.
When you listen without judgment, you’re telling the other person that it’s safe for them to express themselves, to be vulnerable with you. You’re creating a space where they can be their true selves without fear of ridicule or rejection.
In the wise words of Stephen R. Covey, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” If you’re someone who genuinely listens to understand, then you’re demonstrating a behavior that shows you’re a good person.
3) Empathetic responses
Empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, is a key characteristic of a good person. It helps us connect with others on a deeper level and fosters a sense of humanity and compassion.
Even something as simple as a sympathetic nod or a comforting word can show your empathy. You’re not just acknowledging someone’s feelings, but you’re also showing that you understand and care.
In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve into the importance of empathy in forming healthy relationships. It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely worth the effort.
4) Admitting when you’re wrong
This one might seem counterintuitive. After all, no one likes to admit when they’re wrong. It can feel like a blow to our ego, a sign of weakness.
But, in fact, the opposite is true.
Admitting when you’re wrong shows a strength of character that few people possess. It shows that you value truth and fairness over your own pride.
It also shows a willingness to learn and grow. Each time you admit a mistake, you’re opening yourself up to the possibility of learning something new – about the world, about other people, and about yourself.
So while it might be uncomfortable in the moment, admitting when you’re wrong is a surefire sign that you’re a good person. And the discomfort? It’s just growing pains.
5) Showing gratitude
The act of expressing gratitude may seem small, but it’s impact is immense. It’s a simple way to acknowledge the good things and people in our lives.
In my personal experience, I’ve found that people who regularly express gratitude tend to be happier and more content. This is because showing gratitude shifts your focus from what’s wrong in your life to what’s right.
Saying “thank you” to someone shows that you value their time, effort, and kindness. It’s a small gesture that can have a big impact on your relationships.
6) Owning your flaws
This one’s a bit raw, but it’s real. Being a good person doesn’t mean being perfect. In fact, it’s precisely the opposite.
We all have flaws and make mistakes. That’s part of being human. But owning those flaws, acknowledging them without shame or defensiveness, that’s a behavior of a truly good person.
It’s about being honest with yourself and with others. It’s about recognizing that you’re a work in progress, and that’s okay.
Are you someone who can laugh at your own mistakes and admit your flaws? Good for you, you’re showing a level of self-awareness and humility that speaks volumes about your character.
7) Giving without expecting in return
Whether it’s your time, your skills, or simply your attention, giving freely is a powerful way to show your goodness.
As someone who’s worked with countless individuals and couples in my career, I can attest to the beauty and impact of selfless giving. It’s not just beneficial to the receiver, but also incredibly rewarding for the giver.
As the great Winston Churchill once said, “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”
8) Taking responsibility
Let’s be honest here. Taking responsibility for our actions and decisions can be tough. It’s much easier to play the blame game or make excuses.
But here’s the truth: accepting responsibility, especially when things go wrong, is a clear sign of a good person.
It shows that you’re mature and honest enough to admit that you’re not perfect, and that you’re willing to take the consequences of your actions. It shows integrity and humility.
Wrapping up
So there you have it, eight tiny behaviors that show you’re a good person, even if you don’t realize it. Remember, being a good person isn’t about grand gestures or heroic deeds. It’s about the small, everyday things that show your character.
Don’t ever underestimate the power of these tiny behaviors. They may seem insignificant, but they truly define who you are as a person.
Remember, being a good person is a journey, not a destination. And every small act of kindness, every moment of understanding, each time you own your flaws or take responsibility, brings you one step closer to being the best version of yourself.
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