If someone displays these 5 traits, they’re probably a Stoic at heart

Observing someone who practices Stoicism is like watching a master of emotional intelligence at work. And you know what?

There are certain traits that give them away.

In this piece, we’ll take a look at seven key traits that could suggest someone is a Stoic at heart.

Who knows, maybe you will see yourself in some of them. Let’s find out. 

1) Emotional control

“Get rid of the judgement; you are afraid of the ‘I am hurt’; get of the ‘I am hurt’, you are rid of the hurt itself.” – Marcus Aurelius (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)

Stoics aren’t devoid of emotions, contrary to what some might believe. They feel things just as intensely as the next person.

The difference lies in how they handle these emotions. Stoics are masters at managing their feelings. They don’t let their emotions control them; instead, they control their emotions.

Even in the most tumultuous situations, they keep their cool. They maintain a calm and collected demeanor, no matter how high the stakes are or how heated the atmosphere gets.

That’s because Stoics firmly believe that while we can’t always control what happens to us, we can control how we respond. And they choose to respond with emotional intelligence and composure.

2) Rational decision-making

“See facts as they really are, distinguishing their matter, cause, relation.” Marcus Aurelius (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)

Stoicism places a great deal of emphasis on rationality. Stoics are known for making decisions based on logic and reason, rather than being swayed by whims or emotions.

Did you know that Marcus Aurelius, one of the most well-known Stoic philosophers, was also a Roman Emperor?

He famously used his Stoic teachings to guide his decision-making process during his reign. He didn’t let emotions cloud his judgment, even when faced with difficult choices.

If you know someone who always seems to approach problems with a level-headed, logical mindset – someone who doesn’t let emotions get the better of them when making decisions – you might be in the company of a Stoic.

3) Acceptance of what can’t be controlled

“External things are not in my power, my will is my own. Where am I to seek what is good and what is evil? Within me” Epictetus (The Discourses of Epictetus, 1916)

One of the fundamental aspects of Stoicism is the acceptance of things beyond our control. Stoics understand that life is unpredictable and that many things are out of our hands.

For a Stoic, stressing over uncontrollable events is a waste of energy. Instead, they focus their efforts on areas where they can make a real difference.

They acknowledge that they can’t control the weather, the traffic, or other people’s actions. But they can control their reactions to these things. They can choose to accept them and adapt accordingly.

4) Mindfulness

“Each of us lives only in the present, this brief moment; the rest is either a life that is past or is an uncertain future” – Marcus Aurelius (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)

Stoicism and mindfulness go hand in hand. Stoics value the present moment and believe in living fully in the ‘here and now’.

To illustrate, a few years back, I found myself constantly worrying about the future. It was a stressful period, filled with uncertainty and anxiety. That’s when I stumbled upon Stoicism.

Incorporating Stoic principles into my life taught me to focus on the present moment. Instead of fretting about what might happen, I learned to appreciate and live fully in the now. This shift in perspective brought a newfound peace and contentment into my life.

5) Valuing virtue over material wealth

“Whatever anyone may do or say, I am bound to be good” Marcus Aurelius (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)

Stoics are known for placing a greater importance on virtue and character than on material wealth or superficial success. They believe that the real measure of a person lies in their actions and moral values, not in their bank account or social standing.

For Stoics, material possessions and social status are transient and can be taken away at any moment. But virtues such as honesty, courage, and wisdom are enduring qualities that define a person’s character.

Final thoughts: It’s a journey, not a destination

Stoicism is a pathway to understanding ourselves better and navigating the complexities of life with wisdom and serenity.

Marcus Aurelius, a prominent Stoic philosopher, once said, “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” These words perfectly encapsulate the essence of Stoicism.

Stoicism is about examining our thoughts, controlling our reactions, and striving for inner peace, regardless of external circumstances. It’s about recognizing the transient nature of life’s ups and downs and finding contentment within ourselves.

Whether you identify as a Stoic or not, these principles can offer a valuable perspective on life. After all, we’re all just trying to navigate this world as best we can. And sometimes, a little Stoic wisdom can go a long way.

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