Have you ever wondered what it takes to find true contentment in life?
I used to think it was all about achieving goals, collecting accolades, and having the latest gadgets. But then, I stumbled upon Stoicism, an ancient philosophy that’s surprisingly relevant in our fast-paced modern world.
Today, we’re going to dive into five things that, if you find contentment in them, you’re probably a Stoic at heart.
Let’s dive in.
1) The present moment
Have you ever caught yourself ruminating about the past or worrying endlessly about the future?
If you’re anything like me, it’s a daily struggle. Or at least, it was.
One of the most transformative lessons I’ve learned from Stoicism is the power of embracing the present moment.
The Stoics believed that the present is the only time we truly have. As Marcus Aurelius beautifully put it:
“Each of us lives only in the present, this brief moment; the rest is either a life that is past or is an uncertain future.” (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)
This insight hit me hard. I realized I was spending so much time caught up in what’s already happened or what might happen, that I was missing out on the life unfolding right in front of me.
By focusing on the present, we can fully engage with the world around us. This means truly listening during conversations, savoring a delicious meal, or simply enjoying the beauty of a sunset. It’s about being here now, rather than somewhere else in our minds.
This doesn’t mean ignoring the past or future. Instead, it’s about recognizing that our power lies in the now.
2) The mundane
It’s easy to overlook the small things in life, especially when we’re caught up in chasing big dreams or dealing with daily challenges. But Stoicism teaches us that contentment often lies in appreciating the little moments and simple pleasures that make up our days.
Marcus Aurelius advised:
“Ponder on the most fortunate of what you have got and on account of them remind yourself how they would have been missed if they had not been here.” (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)
This quote serves as a powerful reminder to focus on the blessings we often take for granted.
The warmth of the sun on your face, the comfort of a good book, or the joy of a heartfelt laugh with a friend. These small moments are what fill our lives with joy and meaning. When we start paying attention to them, we realize how rich our lives truly are.
I used to rush through my days, always thinking about the next big thing. But once I started practicing gratitude for the small things, everything changed. I began to notice the beauty in everyday moments and found a new level of contentment. It was as if I had been missing out on a treasure trove of happiness that was right in front of me all along.
One way to cultivate this appreciation is by keeping a gratitude journal. Each day, jot down a few things you’re thankful for, no matter how small they may seem. Over time, you’ll start to see just how much you have to be grateful for.
Another practice is to pause throughout your day and take a mental snapshot of a moment you’re enjoying. Whether it’s a peaceful morning coffee or a kind gesture from a stranger, these small moments add up and enrich our lives.
3) Doing what is right, even when it’s not easy
This is a big one.
We all face moments when doing the right thing feels like the hardest choice. Whether it’s standing up for someone, being honest when it’s easier to lie, or making a difficult decision, our character is tested in these moments.
The Stoics emphasized the importance of virtue and integrity, regardless of the challenges we might face. Marcus Aurelius, for example, wrote, “Whatever anyone may do or say, I am bound to be good.” (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)
Living with integrity means acting in alignment with your values, even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable. It’s about being true to yourself and doing what’s right, not because it’s easy, but because it’s the right thing to do.
This might mean making sacrifices, facing criticism, or standing alone, but the inner peace and respect you gain are worth it.
4) The knowledge that everything changes
One of the core teachings of Stoicism is the understanding that everything in life is transient. This realization can be both humbling and liberating.
Think about it: seasons change, relationships evolve, careers shift, and even our own bodies age. The joyful moments pass, as do the tough times. Our possessions, no matter how treasured, will eventually deteriorate or lose their relevance. Essentially, life is nothing but change.
Understanding and embracing the impermanence of life helps us appreciate the present moment more deeply and prepares us to let go when it’s time. When we recognize that both good and bad times are temporary, we can approach life with a more balanced and calm perspective.
5) Striving for the greater good
This is one aspect of Stoicism that seems to be often overlooked.
While the philosophy teaches us to focus on our inner lives and personal virtues, it also places a strong emphasis on contributing to the well-being of others and society as a whole.
Marcus Aurelius highlighted this beautifully when he said, “What does not benefit the hive is no benefit to the bee.” (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)
This quote underscores the Stoic belief that individual well-being is deeply connected to the well-being of the community. In other words, when we contribute to the greater good, we are also enriching our own lives.
Examples of this principle are everywhere.
Volunteering your time to help those in need, participating in community clean-ups, or simply being there for friends and family during tough times are all ways of embodying this Stoic ideal.
These acts of kindness and service not only improve the lives of others but also bring a profound sense of fulfillment and purpose to our own.
The point is that if you find contentment in helping others and contributing to your community, you’re embodying a key Stoic principle. The Stoics believed that we are all interconnected and that our actions should reflect a commitment to the common good.
The bottom line
Do you see yourself in these points? If so, you might just be a Stoic at heart. Good for you!
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