Ever feel like life’s a never-ending whirlwind of expectations and demands? It’s easy to get caught up in the chaos, constantly striving to meet everyone’s standards.
But what if I told you that finding your best self might be about embracing timeless wisdom?
Today, we dive into the powerful world of Stoic habits, unveiling practices that can lead to profound personal growth and tranquility.
These habits have helped me to become a happier, more productive, and kinder person.
They might just help you to do the same.
1) Embracing the art of indifference
The first Stoic habit that has made a significant impact on my life is the practice of indifference.
This might sound counterintuitive, but hear me out. By indifference, I don’t mean apathy or disinterest. Rather, it’s about developing a level of detachment from things outside our control.
Stoic philosophy teaches us that life is unpredictable and full of surprises, most of which we can’t control. We can, however, control how we react to them.
This concept was drilled into me by reading the Stoic philosopher Epictetus. He taught me the importance of focusing on what’s within my control and letting go of what’s not. He famously said:
“Of all existing things some are in our power, and others are not in our power. In our power are thought, impulse, will to get and will to avoid, and, in a word, everything which is our own doing. Things not in our power include the body, property, reputation, office, and, in a word, everything which is not our own doing.” – Epictetus (The Discourses of Epictetus , 1916)
Practicing this has been nothing short of life-changing. It’s helped me reduce stress, minimize unproductive worrying, and enhance my resilience in the face of adversity.
This habit isn’t about not caring; rather, it’s about learning to care about the right things–the things we can actually influence.
By adopting this Stoic practice of indifference, I’ve found a sense of calm and focus that I didn’t know was possible.
It might sound simple, but integrating this habit into your life can have a profound effect on your mental wellbeing.
2) Practicing daily reflection
The second Stoic practice that has been transformative in my life is daily reflection.
Stoicism places a high value on self-awareness and introspection. As someone who used to rush through life without pausing to think, this was a new and challenging concept for me.
However, influenced by the writings of Seneca and Epictetus, I started setting aside time each day to reflect through journaling. I’ll admit that initially, it felt awkward and unproductive, like talking to myself.
But, as I persisted, it became a vital part of my daily routine.
This habit isn’t just about contemplating past actions; it’s about critically evaluating our thoughts, feelings, reactions, and decisions. It’s about learning from our successes and failures alike.
By doing this regularly, I’ve been able to understand myself better, make more informed decisions, and handle stress more effectively.
3) Cultivating an attitude of gratitude
Did you know that research has consistently shown that cultivating an attitude of gratitude can significantly improve our well-being and happiness?
The Stoics understood this well, well before any modern studies.
Gratitude is a core principle of Stoicism, teaching us to appreciate what we have rather than focus on what we lack. This idea, highlighted in the works of Marcus Aurelius and Seneca, has been pivotal for me. Aurelius, for example, wrote:
“Do not think of what are absent as though they were not existing, but ponder on the most fortunate of what you have got, and on account of them remind yourself how they would have been missed, if they had not been here.” (The Meditations of the Emperor Marcus Antoninus, 1944)
We live in a world that constantly pushes us to want more. It’s easy to get caught in the cycle of dissatisfaction. Adopting this Stoic habit of gratitude has allowed me to break free from this cycle.
By taking time each day to acknowledge and appreciate the good in my life, I’ve seen a shift in my perspective. I’ve become more content, more positive, and, ironically, more ambitious.
Gratitude isn’t just about feeling good. It’s about recognizing the value in our experiences, relationships, and resources. It’s about understanding that what we have is enough.
4) Regularly contemplating mortality
Picture this: You’re going about your day when you suddenly remember that life is fleeting and that death is inevitable. Sounds morbid?
Maybe. But the Stoics would call it a necessary reality check.
This practice, known as ‘memento mori’ or remembering death, is a cornerstone of Stoic philosophy. It serves as a reminder of our mortality and the transient nature of life.
When I first encountered this idea, it felt uncomfortable. But as I embraced it, I found it to be one of the most life-affirming practices.
Contemplating mortality has made me more conscious of the preciousness of time. It’s led to a deeper appreciation for the present moment and fueled a desire to make the most out of my time.
Rather than inducing fear, this practice has infused my life with urgency and purpose. It’s made me more focused on my goals, more appreciative of my relationships, and more committed to living fully.
5) Embracing continual learning
Last but not least, one of the core tenets of Stoicism is the pursuit of wisdom and knowledge. The Stoics understood that learning is a lifelong process, and they embraced it wholeheartedly.
As put by Seneca.”no man can live a happy life, or even a supportable life, without the study of wisdom” (Moral letters to Lucilius/Letter 16)
Incorporating this habit into my life has meant adopting a mindset of curiosity and openness. It’s about being willing to learn from every situation, person, and even mistake.
Embracing continual learning has broadened my perspectives, deepened my understanding, and sparked growth in various aspects of my life.
It’s not just about acquiring knowledge; it’s about applying it, refining it, and sharing it.
Adopting a lifelong learning approach has not only enriched my intellectual life but also improved my personal and professional relationships.
In essence, embracing continual learning is a Stoic habit that can empower you to continually evolve into the best version of yourself.
The bottom line
In a nutshell, Stoic habits are about more than philosophy. They’re practical, potent tools for personal growth. Give them a try, and you might just discover your best self.
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